44% of Women Say "Confession on the 3rd Date" is Ideal | About 20% Have Rejected Proposals They Felt Were Too Early or Too Late (Happy Mail Survey)

IBEC Inc. (Headquarters: Fukuoka City, Fukuoka Prefecture), which operates the dating and matchmaking app/service "Happy Mail" (https://happymail.co.jp/), with a cumulative membership of 35 million (*1), conducted a survey on "Confession Timing" targeting 100 adult women.

*1: As of June 2024

This survey compiled responses regarding:

● Ideal confession timing

● Experience of feeling a confession was too early or too late

● Reasons for rejecting a confession

● Suitable situations for a confession

This release reveals the ideal "confession timing" for women and the trends in confessions that tend to lead to relationship progression.

Detailed survey results and graphical materials are available for citation in news and article production on the following page:

▼ Special Survey Results Page

https://happymail.co.jp/happylife/koikatsu/best-time-confess/

1. Ideal Confession Timing is "3rd Date" for 44 People

When 100 adult women were asked about their ideal confession timing, "the 3rd time" was the most common answer with 44 people.

This was followed by "4-5 times" with 19 people, and "the 2nd time" with 15 people.

Overall, there was a tendency for many women to want to advance the relationship after getting to know the other person to some extent.

[Breakdown (Number of People)]

● 1st time (first date): 5 people

● 2nd time: 15 people

● 3rd time: 44 people

● 4-5 times: 19 people

● 6th time or later: 5 people

● Number of times doesn't matter: 12 people

1-1. "3rd Time" is the Ideal for the Most People (44 people)

[Excerpts from Free Responses]

It's good to start dating after getting to know each other a little.

The first date feels a bit too early, so I think around the third time is just right.

Because the confession itself is more trustworthy after getting to know each other to some extent.

Looking at the responses, many women seem to want to receive sincere words after understanding the other person's character to some degree.

The fact that a 3rd date is realized indicates that feelings of affection and trust, along with a desire to "know more," are already sufficiently high.

Therefore, it can be said to be the best timing to move the relationship to the next step.

1-2. Voices from the "Early Confession" Camp Favoring "1-2 Times"

[Excerpts from Free Responses]

I'm happier if the confession comes sooner.

I feel more secure the sooner it happens.

I think it's better at the beginning because otherwise, I might wonder if it's really a date.

I find the first time too early, so it's a no. I often hear about the third time, but I think the second time is ideal because the time spent wondering about the other person's intentions gets too long.

I'm unsure after the first time, so I have trouble responding. If there's a second date, they must like me too.

The third time feels like a waste of time.

A certain number of women felt that "it's better sooner for peace of mind" and "waiting too long makes me anxious."

Especially among those who preferred the second time, there were opinions like "I get anxious if I don't know the other person's feelings for a long time," suggesting a desire to advance the relationship quickly.

Also, many women seem to judge that "the other person has feelings for me" by the time a second date is established.

1-3. Opinions from the "Cautious" Camp Favoring "4th Time or Later"

[Excerpts from Free Responses]

After only meeting 3 times, I still feel like I don't know them well enough and there's still distance.

I want to date after getting to know the other person deeply.

Intuitively, I don't think you can assess the other person's personality after about 3 dates.

I don't know if we're compatible until we've dated 6 or more times.

I want to take time to understand each other.

I want to properly see each other's inner selves.

On the other hand, there were also a certain number of cautious women who felt that "3 times is not enough to assess the other person."

These responses suggest a view of romance that emphasizes "thoroughly checking inner qualities and compatibility" rather than just impulse or atmosphere.

In particular, those who prioritize serious relationships and future-oriented romance tend to value the time leading up to a confession.

1-4. The "Timing Doesn't Matter" Group Prioritizing Feelings

[Excerpts from Free Responses]

I think any time is fine if our feelings align.

It depends on the time, place, and situation, so the number of times varies, and I don't pay attention to it.

There's no rule that says you can or can't confess after a certain number of dates; what matters most is my own feelings.

Some women also prioritized the atmosphere of the moment and mutual feelings over the formal rule of "how many times."

Their responses suggest a value system of "wanting to advance the relationship naturally without being bound by the number of dates."

Not everyone wants to follow a manual; many women want to cherish the moment they feel "this is the one."

2. About 20% of Women Have Rejected Proposals They Felt Were Too Early or Too Late

When 100 adult women were asked, "Have you ever rejected a confession because you felt it was 'too early' or 'too late'?", 23 people answered "Yes."

While about 80% answered "No," it is clear that a certain number of women have excluded potential partners based on "timing."

[Breakdown (Number of People)]

● Yes: 23 people

● No: 77 people

2-1. "Too Early" Confessions Tend to Lead to Perceptions of "Frivolity" or "Distrust"

[Excerpts from Free Responses]

When confessed to by someone I had barely spoken to, I thought it was definitely too soon.

When told on the first date, I didn't feel their sincerity and suspected they might be trying their luck with anyone.

Looking at the responses, many women feel distrust towards confessions that are too early, thinking "They don't even know me yet" or "Are they just asking anyone?"

Especially confessions on the first date can be seen as "driven by momentum rather than sincerity."

2-2. Conversely, "Too Late" Confessions Can Cause Feelings to Cool

[Excerpts from Free Responses]

I've rejected someone because I felt the relationship would remain ambiguous and my feelings cooled.

Because I had already developed feelings for someone else or had moved on to a relationship with someone else.

On the other hand, there were also voices saying that because the confession was too late, they thought "there was no chance" or "my feelings cooled."

In particular, if a long period passes without the relationship progressing, expectations towards the other person tend to diminish.

Survey Results Summary

This survey revealed the following trends:

● The most common ideal confession timing is "the 3rd date."

● Women tend to want to be confessed to after getting to know the other person to some extent.

● About 20% have experience rejecting confessions they felt were too early or too late.

● Early confessions tend to lead to "distrust," while late confessions tend to lead to "cooling of feelings."

● Confessions are valued not only for "timing" but also for "a sense of security" and "sincerity."

This survey showed that what's important in a confession is not "manual-based timing" but "whether a trusting relationship has been built with the other person."

However, since many women consider the "3rd time" ideal, it can be used as a reference point if you're unsure about timing.

Detailed survey results and graphical materials are available on the special page below.

You can also use them as reference material for news and article production.

▼ Special Survey Results Page

https://happymail.co.jp/happylife/koikatsu/best-time-confess/

[Survey Overview]

Survey Method: Internet survey

Target Audience: Adult women

Number of Respondents: 100 women

Date Conducted: April 30, 2026

Survey Conducted By: Happy Mail (Happy) (https://happymail.co.jp/)

Survey Company: IBEC Inc.

Related Page: https://happymail.co.jp/happylife/koikatsu/best-time-confess/

About Happy Mail

Happy Mail is a dating and matchmaking app/matching site that provides opportunities for encounters.

Based on achievements cultivated over more than 25 years of operation, the service has adapted to the times, offering services on PCs, smartphones, and apps.

In 2018, when consulted about creating a romance movie themed around encounters through matching, they became involved in film production for the first time in the matching industry.

In 2019, they appointed "Kayo Noro" as an ambassador and produced the web drama "Happy Mail ~Love Story~" based on the real-life experiences of users actually using Happy Mail, aiming to raise awareness of "romance and marriage" through real encounters using apps and the internet.

In 2024, cumulative membership exceeded 35 million. (As of June 2024)

[Brand Ambassador Appointments]

2019 Kayo Noro

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