How to Reconcile with Your Partner | "Honestly Apologizing Verbally" is Most Common at 66.00%, Top Cause of Arguments is "Indiscreet Words and Actions" at 52.00% (According to Happy Mail Survey)

Ibeck Co., Ltd. (Headquarters: Fukuoka City, Fukuoka Prefecture), which operates "Happy Mail," a dating and love matching app/service with a cumulative membership of 35 million (as of June 2024), conducted a survey on "reconciliation" targeting 200 adult men and women (100 men, 100 women) in a relationship.

*1: As of June 2024

This survey covered:

* Causes of arguments with partners * Who apologizes first when making up * Time taken to make up * Effective actions for making up (multiple answers allowed) * Actions that were counterproductive when trying to make up

This release reveals the reality of arguments with partners and effective/counterproductive actions for making up, based on the responses of 200 adult men and women in a relationship. Detailed survey results and charts are available on a special page for citation in reports/articles.

▼Special survey results page https://happymail.co.jp/happylife/love/make-up-partner/

1. Top cause of arguments with partners is "Indiscreet words and actions" at 52.00%

When 200 adult men and women in a relationship were asked "What are the most common causes of arguments with your partner? (multiple answers allowed)," the most common answer was "Indiscreet words and actions" with 104 people (52.00%).

Followed by "Differences in lifestyle habits and manners" with 92 people (46.00%), and "Relationships with other genders and jealousy" with 33 people (16.50%).

[Breakdown (number of people / percentage)] (n=200)

* Indiscreet words and actions: 104 people (52.00%) * Differences in lifestyle habits and manners: 92 people (46.00%) * Relationships with other genders and jealousy: 33 people (16.50%) * Dissatisfaction with contact frequency or meeting frequency: 32 people (16.00%) * Dissatisfaction with division of housework and roles: 29 people (14.50%) * Differences in money sense: 27 people (13.50%) * Other: 7 people (3.50%)

[By gender (100 people each)]

* Men * Indiscreet words and actions: 47 people (47.00%) * Differences in lifestyle habits and manners: 49 people (49.00%) * Relationships with other genders and jealousy: 17 people (17.00%) * Dissatisfaction with contact frequency or meeting frequency: 18 people (18.00%) * Dissatisfaction with division of housework and roles: 11 people (11.00%) * Differences in money sense: 15 people (15.00%) * Other: 1 person (1.00%)

* Women * Indiscreet words and actions: 57 people (57.00%) * Differences in lifestyle habits and manners: 43 people (43.00%) * Relationships with other genders and jealousy: 16 people (16.00%) * Dissatisfaction with contact frequency or meeting frequency: 14 people (14.00%) * Dissatisfaction with division of housework and roles: 18 people (18.00%) * Differences in money sense: 12 people (12.00%) * Other: 6 people (6.00%)

Responses were concentrated on the top two items, revealing that arguments with partners are more likely to arise from daily words and actions or differences in lifestyle rather than special events.

2. "It varies depending on the situation (who is at fault)" is the most common answer at 52.00% for who apologizes first when making up.

When 200 adult men and women in a relationship were asked "When making up, who apologizes first more often?," the most common answer was "It varies depending on the situation (who is at fault)" with 104 people (52.00%).

Followed by "I often apologize first" with 46 people (23.00%), and "The other person often apologizes first" with 40 people (20.00%).

[Breakdown (number of people / percentage)]

* I often apologize first: 46 people (23.00%) * The other person often apologizes first: 40 people (20.00%) * It varies depending on the situation (who is at fault): 104 people (52.00%) * Time resolves it without either apologizing: 10 people (5.00%)

[By gender (100 people each)]

* Men * I often apologize first: 35 people (35.00%) * The other person often apologizes first: 12 people (12.00%) * It varies depending on the situation (who is at fault): 49 people (49.00%) * Time resolves it without either apologizing: 4 people (4.00%)

* Women * I often apologize first: 11 people (11.00%) * The other person often apologizes first: 28 people (28.00%) * It varies depending on the situation (who is at fault): 55 people (55.00%) * Time resolves it without either apologizing: 6 people (6.00%)