Average Reconciliation Period 3 Months? 100-Person Survey Conducted

Site Creation Inc., which operates the information website "Uranai Guidance," conducted a questionnaire survey targeting 100 men and women with reconciliation experience.

## Survey Period
April 23-24, 2026

## Survey Organizer
Site Creation Inc.

## Survey Method
Internet survey using Lancers

## Survey Target
Men and women who have experienced reconciliation

## Valid Responses
100 people

## Survey Content
Gender, age, reasons for breakup, dating period, period until reconciliation, triggers for reconciliation, relationship after reconciliation, actions considered during reconciliation

This survey collected real-world data on the time it took to reconcile, the triggers for reconciliation, and even the behavioral patterns of those who successfully reconciled. The analysis, based on the voices of people who actually experienced reconciliation rather than general notions of reconciliation periods, revealed clear trends in the time until reconciliation and commonalities in successful actions.

The gender composition of this survey is as follows:

## Female
56 people

## Male
44 people

While there is a slightly higher number of females, males account for 44%, providing data that allows for the analysis of trends in both genders.

## Actual Survey Overview (Excerpt)

### Age at the time of reconciliation
Survey results of age at the time of reconciliation

* Teens: 6 people (6%)
* 20s: 27 people (27%)
* 30s: 37 people (37%)
* 40s: 24 people (24%)
* 50s and over: 6 people (6%)

The most common age for reconciliation was in their 30s, accounting for 37%, with a certain number also present in their 20s and 40s. It was revealed that reconciliation is not concentrated in a specific age group but occurs across a wide range of ages.

### Reasons for breakup
Survey results of reasons for breakup

* Miscommunication/drift: 48 cases
* Arguments: 34 cases
* Personality clashes: 28 cases
* Busyness/environmental changes: 26 cases
* Partner lost feelings: 15 cases
* Self lost feelings: 14 cases
* Partner's infidelity: 13 cases
* Self's infidelity: 7 cases
* Other: 8 cases

The most common result in this survey was "miscommunication/drift" (48%). This was followed by "arguments" and "personality clashes." Since this question allowed multiple answers, many cases involved a combination of factors leading to the breakup, such as "miscommunication + busyness" or "arguments + change of feelings." It is characteristic that relationships deteriorated due to multiple overlapping factors rather than a single cause.

A commonality among the top three reasons for breakup is that the relationship itself had not completely broken down. Since emotional conflicts and differences in daily rhythms were the causes, there was room for the relationship to be repaired over time. On the other hand,

* Partner lost feelings (15%)
* Infidelity (partner/self) (total 20%)

These cases involve a breakdown of trust and emotional foundation. The period until reconciliation tends to be longer, and reproducibility tends to be lower. Also, "busyness/environmental changes" (26%) accounted for a certain number, which is a timing factor. It is conceivable that a new point of contact emerges when work or living environment settles down.

### Dating period until breakup

* Less than 1 month: 1 person
* 1-3 months: 10 people
* 3-6 months: 13 people
* 6 months-1 year: 20 people
* 1-3 years: 34 people
* 3 years or more: 22 people

Analysis: More reconciliations in longer relationships

The most common dating period until breakup was "1-3 years" (34%), followed by "3 years or more" (22%). More than half of the total had relationships lasting over a year, indicating that reconciliation often occurs in relatively long-term relationships.

Short-term relationships (less than 3 months) accounted for only 11% of the total, suggesting that reconciliation in early stages of relationships is a minority.

This result shows the following trends:

* Longer dating periods accumulate more relationship history
* Shared memories and trust become the foundation for reconciliation
* Relationships that are not easily broken are more likely to find a new point of contact

On the other hand, long-term relationships also take time to process emotions, so the period until reconciliation may be prolonged.

### Period until reconciliation
Survey results of the period until reconciliation

* Less than 1 month: 9 people (9%)
* 1-3 months: 30 people (30%)
* 3-6 months: 26 people (26%)
* 6 months-1 year: 13 people (13%)
* 1 year or more: 22 people (22%)

The most common period until reconciliation was "1-3 months" (30%).
This was followed by "3-6 months" (26%), with over half of the total reconciling within half a year.

However, 22% of respondents also answered "1 year or more," revealing that about one in five people rebuild their relationships over a long period.

The reality of reconciliation, polarized into short-term and long-term

A characteristic revealed by this data is the polarization of reconciliation periods:

* Short-term reconciliation of 1-3 months (30%)
* Long-term reconciliation of 1 year or more (22%)