Top Reason for Leaving Matching Apps: For Women, 'Found a Partner Within the App'; For Men, 'Felt Tired/Stressed' — Survey of 200 Men and Women
A survey by Presia Marriage Agency found that the top reason women leave matching apps is finding a partner (37.9%), while for men, it's feeling tired or stressed (33.8%). The results highlight the significantly different experiences and burdens faced by men, including higher financial and mental costs.
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Presia Marriage Agency (Presia Inc.) conducted a survey on "Reasons for Quitting Matching Apps" targeting 200 men and women in their 20s to 50s who have experience using matching apps.
The survey results revealed that the top reason for quitting matching apps was "found a partner within the app" (37.9%) for women, while for men, it was "felt tired or stressed" (33.8%), showing a complete reversal between genders. Furthermore, 22.1% of men closed the app without meeting anyone (approximately twice the 11.4% of women), and men cited "financial burden" 2.6 times more often than women, highlighting the significant economic and mental strain on men.
◼️Top Reasons Reverse for Men and Women
When asked about the top reason for quitting matching apps, the overall TOP 5 were as follows:
【Overall TOP 5 (N=200)】
1st Place: Found a partner within the app (35.0%)
2nd Place: Felt tired or stressed (27.5%)
3rd Place: Found a partner outside the app (8.0%)
4th Place: Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (7.0%)
5th Place: Many users were looking for casual encounters or just playing around (5.5%)
However, looking at the results by gender, the top reason was completely opposite. Among 132 women, "found a partner within the app" (37.9%) was the top reason, with approximately 40% of women 'graduating' from the app.
【TOP 5 for 132 Women】
1st Place: Found a partner within the app (37.9%)
2nd Place: Felt tired or stressed (24.2%)
3rd Place: Found a partner outside the app (9.1%)
4th Place: Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (8.3%)
5th Place: Many users were looking for casual encounters or just playing around (6.8%)
On the other hand, among 68 men, "felt tired or stressed" (33.8%) was the top reason, with "graduating" (found a partner within the app) falling to second place (29.4%). "Financial burden was high" (11.8%) came in third, showing a significant difference between genders.
【TOP 5 for 68 Men】
1st Place: Felt tired or stressed (33.8%)
2nd Place: Found a partner within the app (29.4%)
3rd Place: Financial burden was high (11.8%)
4th Place: Found a partner outside the app (5.9%)
5th Place: Mismatched expectations after matching / Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (4.4% each)
The biases for "financial burden" (men 11.8%, women 4.5%) and "casual encounters / playing around" (women 6.8%, men 0%) were strikingly apparent by gender.
▼Real Voices from Respondents
"After receiving a 'like' and exchanging messages for about a week, we spoke via the app's call function. We went on a total of three dates, once a week, and he proposed on the third date. We got married on our one-year dating anniversary." (Woman in her 30s)
"Honestly, matching apps are quite an exhausting battle. Introducing myself from scratch every time, thinking of conversations to match the other person... it's just plain tiring. If conversations don't continue, I feel like I've wasted time, and being left on 'read' or suddenly fading out is common and subtly damaging. Being tossed around by the gap between expectations and reality is the hardest part, mentally." (Woman in her 30s)
"Every time I matched with someone new, I had to build a new relationship from scratch, or when conversations were heating up and we had plans to meet, they would suddenly withdraw. I often thought, 'What was all that time for...?' I think there are many people who pay 6,000 yen and their subscription expires without ever meeting anyone." (Man in his 30s)
◼️TOP 7 Reasons for Quitting Matching Apps (N=200)
When respondents were asked to choose one top reason for quitting from 14 options, the top rankings were as follows:
1st Place: Found a partner within the app (35.0%)
2nd Place: Felt tired or stressed (27.5%)
3rd Place: Found a partner outside the app (8.0%)
4th Place: Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (7.0%)
5th Place: Many users were looking for casual encounters or just playing around (5.5%)
Joint 6th Place: Financial burden was high (4.5%)
Joint 6th Place: Mismatched expectations after matching (4.5%)
◼️Polarization into "Graduates" and "Exhausted Users"
When reasons for quitting were categorized as positive/negative, the "graduates" group (those who found a partner within or outside the app) accounted for 43.0%, while the "exhausted users" group (those who left due to fatigue, inability to meet, or encountering casual users) accounted for 52.5%.
【Positive Graduates (N=86, 43.0%)】
Average usage period: 8.1 months
Average number of dates: 8.3 people
Outcome: Met a lover or marriage partner
【Negative Exhausted Users (N=105, 52.5%)】
Average usage period: 8.1 months (same)
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The survey results revealed that the top reason for quitting matching apps was "found a partner within the app" (37.9%) for women, while for men, it was "felt tired or stressed" (33.8%), showing a complete reversal between genders. Furthermore, 22.1% of men closed the app without meeting anyone (approximately twice the 11.4% of women), and men cited "financial burden" 2.6 times more often than women, highlighting the significant economic and mental strain on men.
◼️Top Reasons Reverse for Men and Women
When asked about the top reason for quitting matching apps, the overall TOP 5 were as follows:
【Overall TOP 5 (N=200)】
1st Place: Found a partner within the app (35.0%)
2nd Place: Felt tired or stressed (27.5%)
3rd Place: Found a partner outside the app (8.0%)
4th Place: Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (7.0%)
5th Place: Many users were looking for casual encounters or just playing around (5.5%)
However, looking at the results by gender, the top reason was completely opposite. Among 132 women, "found a partner within the app" (37.9%) was the top reason, with approximately 40% of women 'graduating' from the app.
【TOP 5 for 132 Women】
1st Place: Found a partner within the app (37.9%)
2nd Place: Felt tired or stressed (24.2%)
3rd Place: Found a partner outside the app (9.1%)
4th Place: Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (8.3%)
5th Place: Many users were looking for casual encounters or just playing around (6.8%)
On the other hand, among 68 men, "felt tired or stressed" (33.8%) was the top reason, with "graduating" (found a partner within the app) falling to second place (29.4%). "Financial burden was high" (11.8%) came in third, showing a significant difference between genders.
【TOP 5 for 68 Men】
1st Place: Felt tired or stressed (33.8%)
2nd Place: Found a partner within the app (29.4%)
3rd Place: Financial burden was high (11.8%)
4th Place: Found a partner outside the app (5.9%)
5th Place: Mismatched expectations after matching / Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (4.4% each)
The biases for "financial burden" (men 11.8%, women 4.5%) and "casual encounters / playing around" (women 6.8%, men 0%) were strikingly apparent by gender.
▼Real Voices from Respondents
"After receiving a 'like' and exchanging messages for about a week, we spoke via the app's call function. We went on a total of three dates, once a week, and he proposed on the third date. We got married on our one-year dating anniversary." (Woman in her 30s)
"Honestly, matching apps are quite an exhausting battle. Introducing myself from scratch every time, thinking of conversations to match the other person... it's just plain tiring. If conversations don't continue, I feel like I've wasted time, and being left on 'read' or suddenly fading out is common and subtly damaging. Being tossed around by the gap between expectations and reality is the hardest part, mentally." (Woman in her 30s)
"Every time I matched with someone new, I had to build a new relationship from scratch, or when conversations were heating up and we had plans to meet, they would suddenly withdraw. I often thought, 'What was all that time for...?' I think there are many people who pay 6,000 yen and their subscription expires without ever meeting anyone." (Man in his 30s)
◼️TOP 7 Reasons for Quitting Matching Apps (N=200)
When respondents were asked to choose one top reason for quitting from 14 options, the top rankings were as follows:
1st Place: Found a partner within the app (35.0%)
2nd Place: Felt tired or stressed (27.5%)
3rd Place: Found a partner outside the app (8.0%)
4th Place: Didn't feel like I could meet my ideal partner (7.0%)
5th Place: Many users were looking for casual encounters or just playing around (5.5%)
Joint 6th Place: Financial burden was high (4.5%)
Joint 6th Place: Mismatched expectations after matching (4.5%)
◼️Polarization into "Graduates" and "Exhausted Users"
When reasons for quitting were categorized as positive/negative, the "graduates" group (those who found a partner within or outside the app) accounted for 43.0%, while the "exhausted users" group (those who left due to fatigue, inability to meet, or encountering casual users) accounted for 52.5%.
【Positive Graduates (N=86, 43.0%)】
Average usage period: 8.1 months
Average number of dates: 8.3 people
Outcome: Met a lover or marriage partner
【Negative Exhausted Users (N=105, 52.5%)】
Average usage period: 8.1 months (same)
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