[75% of App Users Encounter] The 'Troublesome Old Man' Encyclopedia: What 50s and 60s Women Said

Press Release Information Title: [75% of App Users Encounter] The 'Troublesome Old Man' Encyclopedia: What 50s and 60s Women Said Subtitle: What Adult Women Seek in Men: 'Consideration' and 'Cleanliness' Company Name: Goens Inc. Industry: Lifestyle, Medical/Pharmaceutical/Welfare Main Text (first 8000 characters):

Women in their 50s and 60s, having passed the midpoint of their lives, are using matching apps to find partners with whom they can enjoy the time ahead. However, many of them face not the expectation of new encounters, but rather the selfish pace and inconsiderate behavior of others.

Goens (operated by Goens Inc. / Headquarters: Nagoya City, Aichi Prefecture / CEO: Kazuya Hirosawa), a matching app exclusively for those aged 50 and over, conducted a survey targeting women in their 50s and 60s nationwide to clarify the reality and challenges of encounters among adults on matching apps.

This survey visualizes the various behaviors received from men encountered on matching apps, such as one-sided bragging or hasty demands that misjudge personal boundaries, as the 'Troublesome Old Man Encyclopedia.' It sheds light on the harsh reality hidden in the encounters of women in their 50s and 60s, with over 75% having encountered such men, and unravels the true nature of 'sense of security' that adult women with life experience truly seek.

*Regarding 'old man' in this survey, the age was not limited in the survey; respondents answered and were aggregated based on their own perception of an 'old man.'

**■ Survey Summary**

**75.4% of senior women encounter 'troublesome old men' on apps.** It was found that a total of 75.4% have experienced encountering troublesome old men, combining those who 'often encounter' to 'only once.'

**The most common problematic behavior is 'Hasty/Boundary-breaking type' at 51.8%.** More than half face behaviors that disregard their pace, such as asking for contact information like LINE immediately after matching, or trying to get close before even meeting.

**'Consideration' and 'cleanliness' are sought in adult men.** The top two points for feeling secure on a first date were 'consideration in suggesting bright daytime hours (53.0%)' and 'age-appropriate cleanliness, not trying to look young (45.0%).'

**■ Survey Overview**

**Survey Method:** Internet survey **Target:** Women in their 50s and 60s nationwide who have used matching apps after turning 50. **Survey Period:** March 23, 2026 - March 25, 2026 **Sample Size:** 151 people (0 men, 151 women)

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[75.4% of App Users Encounter] The 'Troublesome Old Man' Ecology Encyclopedia

As many as 75.4% of women in their 50s and 60s using matching apps responded that they 'have encountered a troublesome partner.'

This time, based on the responses of those who 'have encountered a troublesome old man,' we will collectively publish the behaviors of old men who are out of sync or lack consideration in an 'encyclopedia' format, along with raw 'victim's voices.'

### <'Troublesome Old Man' Ecology Encyclopedia encountered by women in their 50s and 60s>

**Ecology 1: Hasty/Boundary-breaking type (Encounter rate: 51.8%)**

* **Characteristics:** Asks for personal contact information like LINE immediately after matching. Tries to get close before even meeting. * **Victim's Voices:** "Emails come regardless of time. They immediately ask for LINE. They think we're dating the moment we match..." (Female, early 50s) "I received messages repeatedly from someone I had only exchanged messages with and never met in person, saying 'I want to visit your house.'" (Female, early 50s) "Suddenly, I was asked for a date involving an overnight stay as the next plan after the first meeting." (Female, late 50s) "Someone who feels like we're already dating after just a few replies. Someone who gets excited by themselves." (Female, early 50s)

**Ecology 2: Dominant/Past Glory Old Man (Encounter rate: 39.5%)**

* **Characteristics:** Only talks about past boasts and heroic tales, doesn't listen to the other person's stories. * **Victim's Voices:** "They brag by mentioning the names of high-end restaurants and asking if I've ever been there." (Female, early 60s) "Repeats the same things, makes a 'shhh' sound with their mouth when removing food stuck in their teeth after a meal, only talks about old stories, speaks loudly in stores, doesn't follow manners." (Female, early 50s) "Showing off wealth." (Female, early 50s)

**Ecology 3: Message-bombing/Demanding Old Man (Encounter rate: 34.2%)**

* **Characteristics:** Sends an extremely high frequency of messages, or rushes for replies. * **Victim's Voices:** "There was a person who constantly demanded daily email replies and got upset if I was a little late, repeatedly sending persistent email requests." (Female, late 50s) "Messages saying 'I want to meet, I want to meet' repeatedly even when I said I couldn't meet today." (Female, early 50s) "Always wants to meet immediately. Asks questions repeatedly. Contacts me many times a day. It's troublesome to contact so many times." (Female, late 50s) "Messages are frequent and sent without regard for time." (Female, late 50s)

**Ecology 4: Overly Familiar Old Man (Encounter rate: 29.8%)**

* **Characteristics:** Becomes overly familiar, such as using casual language immediately. * **Victim's Voices:** "Too familiar from the start." (Female, late 50s) "Suddenly becomes familiar and closes the distance." (Female, late 50s)

**Ecology 5: Self-centered Old Man (Encounter rate: 28.1%)**

* **Characteristics:** Date proposals are too sudden, or they impose their convenience. * **Victim's Voices:** "When I refused a proposal, he got angry and hurled insults, which was scary." (Female, early 50s) "When I said I wanted to exchange messages a bit more before meeting, he got furious." (Female, late 50s) "Even when I declined, he didn't notice, and when I clearly told him, he got angry." (Female, early 50s) "Completely unable to read the atmosphere, imposing himself." (Female, late 50s)

**Ecology 6: Preachy/Teacher-type Old Man (Encounter rate: 28.1%)**

* **Characteristics:** Gives advice or mysterious lectures from a condescending perspective. * **Victim's Voices:** "He lectured me condescendingly and said he'd treat me at a family restaurant. He also seemed to not get along with his family, and I thought, 'Of course!' Another person got drunk and couldn't hold a conversation at all." (Female, early 50s) "He often talked about 'young people these days...' but the content was pure power harassment." (Female, early 50s) "He tried to make me quit my job without my consent." (Female, late 50s) "Talks endlessly from a condescending perspective." (Female, early 50s)

**Ecology 7: Profile-unaware Old Man (Encounter rate: 27.2%)**

* **Characteristics:** Repeatedly asks things that are already written in the profile. * **Victim's Voices:** "Asks various personal things." (Female, early 50s) "One-sided." (Female, late 50s)

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Forceful Appeals are Counterproductive! Absolute Conditions Sought in 'Adult Men'

Against the selfish behaviors of some troublesome old men, what points make women in their 50s and 60s feel that 'this person is a reliable adult man' on a first date?

According to the survey results, 'consideration in arranging meeting places and times' (53.0%) and 'age-appropriate cleanliness' (45.0%) garnered support from nearly half, becoming the top two.

Furthermore, 'an adult sense of distance that doesn't immediately inquire about one's past' (35.8%) follows as the next point. In contrast to 'troublesome partners' who forcefully close the distance or appeal by trying to look young, it is clear that both 'age-appropriate cleanliness' in appearance and 'consideration and sense of distance' that respects the other person's pace and background are what adult men are most desired for.

Conversely, this means that even without special efforts to look young, excessive escorting, or showing off economic power, if an adult man possesses 'age-appropriate cleanliness' and 'a sense of distance that respects the other person's pace,' he can be sufficiently accepted as an attractive and reliable partner.

Here are some episodes from women in their 50s and 60s that corroborate this, describing 'adult behaviors that moved their hearts.'

### <Episodes of Adult Behaviors that Women in their 50s and 60s Found 'Reassuring'>

* "Even if opinions differed slightly, the attitude of trying to resolve it through discussion rather than winning or dominating." (Late 50s) * "While many men propose dinner or drinks for a second date, he readily agreed to lunch dates for the second and third dates as well." (Early 50s) * "When deciding on a dining location, he prioritized my requests but also made proper suggestions instead of leaving it entirely to me." (Early 50s) * "He didn't immediately ask deep personal questions like residence or occupation until I brought them up." (Early 50s) * "He sent short emails without bragging and honestly shared things like his divorce history and pets to a non-burdensome extent." (Early 60s) * "When we met, he got out of the car to greet me, and he always kept his promise about the return time." (Late 50s) * "After about three weeks, he asked, 'Would you like to meet?' He never spoke in a negative way." (Late 50s) * "Someone with polite language, who listens carefully to my convenience, and is broad-minded." (Late 50s) * "When he recognized me at the meeting place, he got out of the car and bowed deeply to greet me." (Late 50s) * "He had a good sense of distance and responded well by carefully observing my reactions." (Early 50s)

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Goens: Supporting Natural Adult Encounters by Connecting from Within

What is truly necessary for finding a partner in one's 50s and beyond is not forceful approaches, excessive attempts to look young, or showing off. As the survey results indicate, what is sought is 'age-appropriate cleanliness' and 'consideration and an adult sense of distance' that respects the other person's pace and background.

Goens, a matching platform for adults, eliminates the anxieties and hurdles that men and women aged 50 and over face when using apps, providing secure encounters.

**■ 4 Reasons Why Goens is Chosen**